Intro
I don’t know much about motherhood — but I do know it’s very hard. In this blog post, I’ll try to explain where I stand on the matter, because for a long time, it has been one of my biggest fears.
Main Points
Growing up, I saw the difference between being just a parent-mother and being a real mother. A parent-mother only cares about bringing kids into the world. A mother, on the other hand, takes care of everything — from a child’s appearance to their inner emotional and mental well-being.
After witnessing this contrast, I promised myself that I wouldn’t bring anyone into this world through me. Life continued to show me that parenting is not a game. And I believe these parent-mothers, who only focus on birthing children, often cause long-term harm.
Because when their kids grow up and start to wake up to reality, they go through grief — some break down, others spend years just trying to figure themselves out, usually without any healthy emotional tools.
Here are a few real-life examples:
How to be okay with yourself: If your subconscious is wired to believe that you are the problem, it’s hard to feel peace.
How to understand and deal with fear: When your body and mind are used to living in constant fear, even peaceful moments feel like a trap.
How to trust yourself: This one is the hardest. You think you’ve faced the issue and solved it — but then something takes you back to square one, deeper into the original wound.
Finding a life partner: You may meet the right person — but instead of building a calm future together, your unresolved wounds make the relationship full of unnecessary obstacles.
Conclusion
Let me define a few terms, from my point of view:
Parent-Mother: Someone only concerned with reproduction.
Mother: Someone who knows she can’t be everything, but chooses to seek help — from the father, grandmothers, grandfathers, aunts, and uncles — to raise her child in a healthy way. By telling them her way some they can conturbite right. She focuses on understanding rather than always being right.
That’s all for today. Just take it easy. 🌱